It is difficult to put the words together for this post. In my head, I had it all planned out. When it came time to write, NOTHING. To break any ancestral, generational and present day toxic relationship patterns, I must and will advocate to heal the mother wound. She is an essential part of any progress to be made. Men and women alike have not always wanted the matriarchal figure to come out of obscurity. But that will not be the legacy I leave for my Suns and daughter. The mother wound is one we all share in some way, may these words be a blessing to you.
I wanted to follow up on my original post, sharing how my healing continues to transform my relationship with my mother and strain it still. I have established my boundaries, shown grace to myself and my mother. But it still isn’t enough. Maybe, I felt that if I show her that it’s not hard to change then she’d be open to working on our relationship. But I am still wrong in this knowing. My healing makes her uncomfortable. How could it be that I’m fighting for my peace no exceptions?My healing makes her angry. How could I forgive and move on without communicating this to her? My healing frightens her. How can I stand strong after EVERYTHING I have lived through?
We are truly here to teach one another, in my opinion. I continue to peel back the layers to my own insecurities to see my mother as, A mother still growing through her own life experience. A daughter that misses her own mom who transitioned years ago. A grandmother that does not want to be forgotten. Even in the midst of my shadow work healing, the highs and lows, the emotional unavailability and even my uncertainty of where it will lead, I WILL NOT GIVE UP ON MY FAMILY. They are my greatest destiny. She will always be a part of that, in spite of the traumas, the triggers and unresolved emotions that I’m willing growing through every day. How are you intentionally supporting your own Mother(s) in transforming, accepting and even healing their own mother wound? I’d love to hear your thoughts. Keep growing with the flow.🙏🏾💃🏾❤️